Seeking professional relationship coaching and counselling can be a challenging task. Please read the questions and answer below to prepare for this next change in your life. We guarantee you this will be a positive change.
How do I make an appointment?
You are welcome to discuss any questions you may have. A selection of daytime and evening appointments from Monday to Saturday are available. If you are unable to reach Paul the first time please leave a message and we will respond as soon as we can, usually the same day.
How long does a counselling session last for?
Individual sessions usually run for 55 mins, while we allow 75 minutes for couples coaching.
What can I expect in the first counselling session?
It can be challenging for a lot of people to open up to a complete stranger and talk about really personal stuff. In the first counselling session you will find that it is not as scary as you might have believed. For starters you are in the drivers seat. You determine what is said and what is not. We make every effort to help you feel safe and comfortable in talking about what brings you to counsellling
How many counselling sessions will I need?
This is really dependent on the severity and duration of the issues you are struggling with. Some relatively surface difficulties can be resolved in two or three sessions, whilst other patterns or issues that have been there a lifetime can take longer to work through. The goal of effective therapy is to get you to a place where you are comfortable, confident and competent in moving forward in your life.. Lasting results come from equipping you with tools and techniques to manage life situations better, as well as providing you with insight into your previous behaviours. The average length of the counselling process in doing this is around 7-8 sessions.
How many relationship coaching sessions will it take to solve our relationship problems?
Obviously, each couple is unique and there is no “average” number of sessions. The therapy begins with a 3-step assessment process where together with Paul the couple provides a brief history of the relationship, family histories and the current issues. The following 2 sessions are one-on-one, where each partner gets to tell their side of the story. This is common practice and something highly recommended by John Gottman. These assessments provide the foundation or roadmap for your therapeutic journey and provide you with a clear purpose and goal. The frequency and duration of your sessions are then make co-jointly with Paul. Paul relies heavily on the Gottman method because of its validity, reliability and strength of research that is aimed at helping you become competent and confident in making the necessary lasting positive changes to your relationship. It is not the goal of our work is to create “therapy-dependent” couples. The role of the counsellor is to help facilitate those changes that you make in your daily lives.
Will talking to a counsellor help me? Is it worth the effort?
Counselling and psychotherapy do work! But it does require work. Whether it is support and understanding through a crisis or bringing about deep fundamental change, ‘talking it out’ with a professional can definitely make a difference. Men in particular benefit enormously from having a one-on-one with a male counsellor. Our society is becoming increasingly accepting of psychological therapy as more and more people experience the benefits.
Is there something wrong with me that I can’t work it out for myself?
The short answer is ‘NO’. Seeking professional doesn’t appear to exist in the male DNA. To men, it often represents weakness or failure but there are just some issues in life that no amount of ‘self-help’ will fix. Seeking out a qualified counsellor and allowing them to see our vulnerabilities is an act of courage and strength and in itself will help move you towards your greatest potential.
What if my partner doesn’t want to come to couples counselling?
If your partner doesn’t want to attend relationship counselling you may like to start on your own. By attending you are demonstrating how you value the relationship and will gain perspectives on how you can bring new skills and insights into the relationship. Your partner is welcome to join the process at any stage.
What if one of us has a lot of personal issues to work on?
Sometimes individual therapy is indicated for one or both parties involved in couple’s coaching. In fact it is a prerequisite with the Gottman method. Individual sessions can help uncover habits and ways of doing things that can be adjusted or even eliminated. However, a lot of personal insight can be gained in exploring the ‘why’s’ ‘how’s’ of why you do certain things by discussing them in a safe counselling environment together.
Why see Paul Baker the relationship coach?
Paul is a fully qualified practitioner who knows how to help people. His speciality lies in understanding men and their issues, their way of being in this world and their interactions with intimate others. Knowing and understanding the dynamics that exist with relationships means Paul can help you more effectively and more efficiently. Paul is passionate about helping people find strength and joy in themselves, their work, their relationships, their families and their lives.
Counselling Fees – Our Best Fee Promise
In order to keep our services accessible to as many people as possible, Paul charges fees that are 45% – 58% lower than the individual and couple rates recommended by the Australian Psychological Society.
As Paul is in a private practice and not a registered psychologist, he does not receive any financial support from the Government or community agencies.
The Counselling fees include:
- Individual consultation $110 (incl. GST)
- Couples consultation $120 (incl. GST)
While at this point in time, you cannot claim on Medicare, the fees are a reflection of the difference between the rebate and actual cost. Please note also that the recommended fee, by the Australian Psychological Society, for a psychologist standard one-hour consultation is $235.00 for an individual and $240 for couples, exclusive of GST.
A variety of consultation times are available including some Saturday and after-hours appointments.
Individual consultations are 55 minutes in duration. Couple consultations are 75 minutes in duration.
Payments can be made either prior to, or at the time of consultation. Payments can be made by EFTPOS, Credit card, direct debit or cash. A receipt will be issued at the time of payment.
Counselling services are not normally claimable through health insurance. Some claims may be made with certain health funds in “extra cover” when claimed as part of the “lifestyle” category. Some industries, companies and government departments are willing to contribute to your counselling. To find out just ask your HR department or read the company policy.
Appointments cancelled with less than 24hours notice or failing to attend your appointment (excluding emergencies and circumstances beyond your control) will be charged a cancellation fee at half price of a session. This policy is representative of the industry standard within the Counselling profession.
This Cancellation Policy also enables us to keep costs to a minimum and make times available for other clients.