1. Showing Appreciation is a Course correction

Appreciation counselling BrisbaneLast week we looked at saying sorry. Click here to read that post. Another course correction is appreciation. This can work particularly well in defusing an argument. Those well versed in showing appreciation will often start a discussion that has the potential to go badly with an appreciation statement. They may thank their partner for mopping the floors in the morning or getting the kids lunches ready before they head into the discussion about the overdraft.

Of course, you can show appreciation with almost anything. Think about what the other person does that you are grateful for. How can you show them appreciation for the things they do around the home? Or perhaps for the way they interact with your parents or friends. Appreciation need not be given for just big things either. A smile, a touch, a kind word of thanks can mean all the difference to the other person. Showing appreciation gets you out of your head and into the life of your partner. Giving a well-timed compliment or gentle praise can lift the spirits of the other person and make them feel that they are loved and cared for by you.

You might want to remind yourself to voice your appreciation to those you love. Don’t hold back either. Say it out loud and mean it. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking the other person will get a big head or start showing off or rubbing it in your face. When appreciation is well placed and genuinely meant, it is appreciated. And remember, if you don’t show appreciation to those who deserve they will learn to stop doing the things you appreciate.

Take a moment to think about all the things you can express appreciation to your partner for. This list could potentially be endless but don’t overdo it. There is plenty to appreciate them for. Let them know as well because being appreciated equals respect and we all want that. As H.Jackson Brown Jr. once said “Don’t forget, a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated”.

Next week we will look at the biggest personal course correction you can take.