Losing someone you love is a horrible feeling.

 

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The gut wringing pain you experience…
You feel helpless and shocked…you want to wind back time or wish you were dreaming…losing someone you really cared deeply for would rank way up there at the top 3. Imagine life’s changes if you lost your spouse. Perhaps you think I’m speaking specifically about losing your spouse because they have passed away, but I’m not.

I’m actually talking about losing your spouse through a marriage failure, and from my experience as a counsellor, this is real pain.

And here is the point I’d like you to consider. Relationships just don’t go bad overnight. Think of it like gaining weight… you don’t put on 10 extra kilos while binging on junk food and watching Netflix over the weekend.
However… if you consistently and continually eat that junk food…

And if you consistently fail to work out…

Well then, you shouldn’t be surprised if you gain weight over time. If the truth be told, you might be shocked by the size of the gain but not the reason for it. And it’s the same with your marriage. Failure to be consistent in nurturing and caring for your marriage will get the same kind of results. If you are reading this and it has failed then you know only too well to look back to understand why.

Does that make any sense to you? I sure hope so! Hopefully, you are reading this and your marriage hasn’t failed. Hopefully, you are in tip-top shape and things are going well. However, in the interest of preserving your relationship, and perhaps making it even better, answer this question for me.

When is the last time you and your spouse had a relationship check-up? You get a health check-up, a car check-up, heavens you even get your dog checked up. Would it surprise you to learn that many of the small issues that are now major issues for couples could have been avoided if they were addressed while they were still small issues?
Here’s some sound advice.. even if you think things are going well…

Get a marriage check-up. It’s a small price to pay for peace of mind. You can contact us to arrange for a Gottman assessment and strategy planning around safeguarding your relationship by following this link.

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