Relationship Issues – No Two are the Same
There is no doubt that relationship issues are as varied as the relationships you know and see in society.
Having said that, the remedies for those issues can often appear quite simple and straight forward. But they are not easy. In other words, they require work. And that work always requires effort!
Relationship counselling can and does do many things, and help many people, but often it runs the risk of getting bogged down in details and the ‘He said, she said’ syndrome.
A counselling environment can help a couple get a different perspective on the relationship. It can help you see the other person’s point of view. But knowing and appreciating your partner’s point is one thing. Doing something constructive about it is quite another. When you engage in couples counselling it is like clearing the site for construction. Coaching is like laying the foundation and building the structure of a home, so to speak. The better the materials, the knowledge and skills you have to build with, the better the end result.
Knowing how to navigate the tricky waters of relationship disputes requires skill, knowledge, and understanding. However, research shows that there is one other major aspect that is required for a successful outcome and that is a plan to work towards. And as you can appreciate, nobody builds a home without a proper plan in place.
Effective Approach to Relationship Coaching
The relationship coaching approach at PBR Counselling and Relationship Coaching is based on years of solid research carried out in the field of marriage and relationships by the John Gottman Institute. John Gottman’s research spans over 35 years of relationship studies and has profoundly helped shaped the relationship counselling and coaching world ever since.
While it is true that psychology can only predict approximately 10% of human behaviour with any accuracy, the inverse is true of relationships. Gottman and associates found that they could predict with high probability (89% thereabouts) whether a marriage would succeed or fail.
Simply by observing couples in a variety of settings, including arguments and having fun, they could tell accurately if the couple was headed to the divorce court or could remain married. We have taken this research and applied it to the coaching environment with great results.
Relationship Coaching vs Relationship Counselling
A coaching approach not only focuses on understanding and resolving couples’ conflicts, but also extends into the aspects of everyday interactions , communications, and their challenges. It aims to build a couple’s friendship and love by focusing on emotions, building skills to manage conflict, developing new skills to build friendship, and helping the couple to build a system of shared meaning together.
The key building blocks of this effective approach include:
Why Relationship Coaching is Appealing
Coaching has a broad appeal with many people being able to relate to the environment of training and learning. Most recognise that coaching plays a big part in the success of any pursuit. Furthermore, men, in particular, find coaching less intimidating, less threatening and are therefore more likely to engage in the process.
“Couples coaching is a supportive and powerful way for couples to resolve issues, achieve more clarity, improve communication, develop intimacy, and build and grow their relationship. Paul Baker’s approach supports both parties in the relationship and aims to address negative cycles and patterns that regularly lead to arguments, feelings of not being heard, disconnection, dissatisfaction or disempowerment”.
Get Started On A New Path With Relationship Coaching
The key benefits of Couples Coaching:
Start Your Journey With PBR Relationship Coaching
If your partner is reluctant to start couples coaching or relationship counselling you can start alone and then let them know what you’re doing. This will demonstrate that you value the relationship, want to learn new skills and wish to gain clarity by focusing on the issues that matter to you. Your partner can join the process at any stage they feel comfortable doing so.