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The Gottman Method For Couples Therapy | Paul Baker Counselling

The Gottman Method For Couples Therapy

The Knowledge & Wisdom Of Nearly 40 years of clinical practice
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The Gottman Method For Couples Therapy

Dr John Gottman’s research shows that to make a relationship last, couples must become better friends, learn to manage conflict, and create ways to support each other’s hopes for the future. Drs. John and Julie Gottman have shown how couples can accomplish this by paying attention to what they call the Sound Relationship House, or the nine components of healthy relationships.
Building Love Maps

How well do you know your partner’s inner psychological world, his or her history, worries, stresses, joys, and hopes?


This is the state that occurs when a person knows that his or her partner acts and thinks to maximize that person’s best interests and benefits, not just the partner’s own interests and benefits. In other words, this means, “my partner has my back and is there for me.”

Turning Towards

State your needs, be aware of bids for connection and respond to (turn towards) them. The small moments of everyday life are actually the building blocks of relationship.

Positive Perspective

The presence of a positive approach to problem-solving and the success of repair attempts.

Managing Conflict

We say “manage” conflict rather than “resolve” conflict, because relationship conflict is natural and has functional, positive aspects. Understand that there is a critical difference in handling perpetual problems and solvable problems.

Making Dreams Come True

Create an atmosphere that encourages each person to talk honestly about his or her hopes, values, convictions and aspirations.

Creating Shared Meaning

Understand important visions, narratives, myths, and metaphors about your relationship.

Sharing Fondness & Admiration

The antidote for contempt, this level focuses on the amount of affection and respect within a relationship. (To strengthen fondness and admiration, express appreciation and respect.)


This means believing (and acting on the belief) that your relationship with this person is completely your lifelong journey, for better or for worse (meaning that if it gets worse you will both work to improve it).

Breaking Relationship Barriers

Combining the knowledge and wisdom of nearly forty years of studies and clinical practice, The Gottman Method Couples Therapy helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy in their relationships. Through research-based interventions and exercises, it is a structured, goal-oriented, scientifically-based therapy. Intervention strategies are based upon empirical data from Dr. Gottman’s study of more than 3,000 couples. This research shows what actually works to help couples achieve a long-term healthy relationship.

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Free Relationship Guides By Gottman

Choose among our most effective guides for helping couples improve or strengthen their relationship.

Small Things Often
Small Things Often

How to build a positive lasting relationship

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 Avoid the Four Horesman For A Better Relationship
Avoid the Four Horesman For A Better Relationship

Learn how to prevent Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt & Stonewalling

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Aftermath Of A Fight Or Relationship Mistake
Aftermath Of A Fight Or Relationship Mistake

How to repair after a fight or regrettable incident Tools for an Effective Repair Conversation

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How To Be A Great Listener
How To Be A Great Listener

Learn the Art of Listening to Create Intimate Conversation, Trust and Love

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Based on Brisbane’s northside, PBR Counselling and Relationship Coaching has helped countless individuals and couples through turbulent periods and on to foster techniques that encourage lasting relationship health.

Together through therapy, we can help you develop the right tools to reduce conflict, open up to each other, and get back to being happy again.

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